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Nowadays it's really important to have a good realtionship between two persons, a couple specially, There are some advices that you may follow1. Do the things you did the first year you were dating.As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again.
2. Ask for what you want.Over time, we assume that our partner knows us so well that we don’t need to ask for what we want. What happens when we make this assumption? Expectations are set and just as quickly, they get deflated. Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection. Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants. 3. Become an expert on your partner.Think about who your mate really is and what excites him or her (both physically and emotionally). We can become consumed by what WE THINK he/she wants, as opposed to tuning in to what truly resonates with the other person. Remember that if it’s important to your partner, it doesn’t have to make sense to you. You just have to do it. 4. Don't ask "how was your day."At the end of a long day, we tend to mentally check out of our lives and consequently, our relationship. We rely on the standard question, “How was your day?” Generally, that boring question will yield a boring answer such as, “Fine, how was yours?” This does nothing to improve your connection and instead, can actually damage it because you're losing the opportunity to regularly connect in a small way.Instead, try asking things like, “What made you smile today?” or “What was the most challenging part of your day?” You’ll be amazed at the answers you’ll get, with the added benefit of gaining greater insight into your significant other. 
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5. Create a weekly ritual to check in with one another.It can be short or long but it begins with asking each other what worked and didn’t work about the previous week and what can be done to improve things this coming week. Additionally, use this opportunity to get on the same page with your schedules, plan a date night and talk about what you would like to see happen in the coming days, weeks, and months in your relationship. Without an intentional appointment to do a temperature check, unmet needs and resentments can build. 6. Keep it sexy.What might change in your relationship if both you and your partner committed to increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that aren’t? Think about this in the broadest form. “Sexy” can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day-to-day lives. Do you find it sexy if he/she helps with the housework? Do you find it "unsexy" when he/she uses the restroom with the door wide open? Talk about what it specifically means to "keep it sexy" in your relationship. Be amazed, be humored, be inspired! 7. Get creative about the time you spend together.Break out of the “dinner and a movie” routine and watch how a little novelty can truly rejuvenate your relationship. On a budget and can’t go big? Jump on the internet to look for “cheap date ideas” and be blown away at the plethora of options. Can’t afford a sitter? Try swapping babysitting time with friends that have kids. It’s free and they will likely be thrilled to take your kids because they will get to take advantage when they drop their kids at your place. 8. Get it on.Unless you have committed to an asexual partnership, sex, sexual contact and touching (kissing, holding hands, cuddling etc.) are vital components of a romantic relationship. The frequency is of course, up to you and it's imperative that you discuss your ideas about it in order to prevent resentment. Rare are the moments when both partners are “in the mood” at the exact same second, but that doesn’t mean that you have to decline their advances. Remind yourself that you will almost always “get there” after the first few minutes and that an intimate interaction of any kind builds connection and elevates your mood and health. Bear in mind that you are never required to say “yes.” If you truly don’t feel it, the best thing you can do is to postpone. Just make sure that you initiate or accept within a reasonable amount of time thereafter. 9. Take a (mental) vacation, everyday.Life and work distractions can become paramount in our minds and that leaves little time or energy for our partner. Practice the art of “Wearing the Relationship Hat.” This means that (barring any emergencies or deadlines), we are fully present when we're with our mate. We truly hear what they are saying (instead of pretending to listen), we leave our distractions behind and we don’t pick them up again until the sun comes up and we walk out the door. Some tips to improve communication Sadly, we aren’t born with the innate ability to effectively communicate but it doesn’t mean that we can’t learn. Use the following techniques to better navigate and limit the tension in your relationship: 10. Take "fight breaks" when you need them.Before you’ve hit the point of no return and as you see the stress beginning to escalate, one or both of you can call a break so that cooler heads can prevail. The crux of this tool lies in the fact that you must pick a specific time to revisit the conversation (I.e. 10 minutes from now, 2:00pm on Tuesday etc.) so that closure can be achieved.
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miércoles, 27 de julio de 2016
Advices for a better relationship
Feminism or
Masochism
It has come to my attention that some equality movements
want to curb freedom of speech. An example of this is the recent attempt
to ban page 3 because it was inappropriate and degrading to women. The
word I noticed most was ‘ban’ which suggested controlling of what people can
publish or even see. What I think I’m seeing more and more often is signs of attempted repression by use of the moral
high ground and these movement
titles (such
as ‘feminism’). This article focuses on feminism as it is
something that I hear about on a daily basis and seems to be the most
hypocritical and confused of any modern movement.
Source: Chanel S/S 15
Also, feminist politics may not enter into the mind
explicitly during the throes of fantasy or love-making; but the fact that women
may be increasingly interested in reading about, and perhaps partaking in, sex
that deals openly with power relationships does not represent a retreat from
equality. In fact, it may count as evidence that we’ve edged closer to it than
we thought.
Feminism started, as most know, with an outcry for
equality. This meant votes for women and the ability to make choices like
who to marry and what to wear. Thankfully women won most of what they
wanted. Men no longer oppress women as normality and although equality
has not been fully reached and there are still some men who oppress women
illegally, social norm is that women are free, voting and working citizens.
Ideally feminism should now focus on other oppressed women both worldwide and
victims to spousal abuse and sexual abuse and I’m sure right minded feminists
do this.
However, the feminist movement recently seems to have
started focussing on how society has adapted to this in bad ways by sexualising
and objectifying women’s bodies. They both suggest that women who sleep
around and wear inappropriately exposing clothes are sluts, and that men who
look at, admire or appreciate these women or images of nude women, are
potential rapists and by the mere act of looking are ‘raping women with their
eyes’. To me these views go back to a masochist society in which women
were required to cover up all their skin in order to prevent men gawking while
men were expected to only court a woman by strictest guidelines in the presence
of the male family member that basically owns her. A modern example may
be Muslim societies that suggest that if a woman shows her hair she deserves to
be raped and that men can’t help themselves!
It is true that there are men out there who abuse women
but why is it that a man can no longer admit to being attracted to a woman
without it being called objectification. Try natural human thoughts and
an instinct to seek out a suitable mate. If we adhered to the rules of
these modern feminists, the human race would die out; if men weren’t allowed to
be attracted to women publicly or, God forbid, hit on a woman in case she felt
it to be too forward or her friend felt that she wasn’t pretty enough, then no one
would ever get married or have children (unless of course we went back to
arranged marriages!). Equally if women had to cover up any of their
female beauty whether it is their body, hair or face then the same result could
be expected.
Source
- The official student newspaper of UPSU (2014) Feminism or Masochism
[Retrieved from: http://theknowledgeplymouth.co.uk/feminism-or-masochism/]
- Lowder, B. (2012) Is submissive sex anti-feminism.
[Retrieved
from: http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2012/04/17/masochism_and_feminism_is_submissive_sex_bad_for_equality_.html]
domingo, 17 de julio de 2016
St. Valentine’s Day
Valentine's
Day Celebration
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Saint
Valentine's Day festival is celebrated in a big way in countries around the
world! It is interesting to note that the popularity of this ancient festival
has grown several folds and is said to be increasing by the year as more and
more people are getting influenced by idea of celebrating love and lovers. The
present generation holds the festival in high regard and celebrates the day by
expressing love not just to their sweethearts but everyone they hold dear and
special.
Valentine's Day Celebration in Present Times
In present times, Valentine's Day Festival celebrations are
massive in several countries across the globe. The festival has emerged as a
popular dating and gift-giving festival and therefore has a major social and
economic significance. It may be noted that Valentine's Day started as a
romantic festival but today the festival has increased in scope. These days, Valentine's
Day is essentially regarded as festival that celebrates love between
individuals and not just lovers. People therefore wish ‘Happy Valentine's
Day' to parents, teachers, siblings, friends or any other person special
to them.
Though there are various traditions and customs associated
with the festival, the most popular way of celebrating Valentine’s Day is by
expressing love to sweethearts and dear ones with an exchange of gifts. Some of
the most traditional Valentine's Day gifts exchanged between lovers are fresh
flowers, chocolates and cards. Jewelry is also fast emerging as the most sought
after Valentine's Day gift for women. In the modern technologically advanced
age, exchange of text messages between friends and loved ones has become a
norm.
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Going on dates with beloved is the other major way of celebrating Valentine's
Day Festival. Restaurants see a busy time as people celebrate the day of
romance with a candle light dinner. People also participate in Valentine's Day
dance parties and balls organized by various clubs and hotels. Private parties
are also organized in homes and farmhouses where young and the old have a
blast. Some couple use the occasion to propose their beloved while some chose
to get engaged on the festival that celebrates love and lovers.
What Do People Do?
Many people celebrate their love for their partner by
sending cards or letters, giving gifts or flowers and arranging meals in
restaurants or romantic nights in hotels. People who would like to have a
romantic relationship with somebody may use the occasion to make this known,
often anonymously. Valentine's cards are often decorated with images of hearts,
red roses or Cupid. Common Valentine's Day gifts are flowers chocolates, candy,
lingerie and champagne or sparkling wine. However, some people use the occasion
to present lavish gifts, such as jewelry. Many restaurants and hotels have
special offers at this time. These can include romantic meals or weekend
breaks.
Many people around the world celebrate Valentine’s Day by
showing appreciation for the people they love or adore. Some people take their
loved ones for a romantic dinner at a restaurant while others may choose this
day to propose or get married. Many people give greeting cards, chocolates,
jewelry or flowers, particularly roses, to their partners or admirers on Valentine’s
Day.
Bibliography
- SCFI. (2015). St. Valentine’s Day. [Online] (15/07/2016). http://www.stvalentinesday.org/valentines-day-celebration.html
- Time and date. (2016). Valentine’s Day. [Online] (15/07/2016) http://www.timeanddate.com/holidays/common/valentine-day
Why we don´t need to celebrate Saint Valentine’s Day.
Every once
a year, we get to celebrate something unique and special. It could be a day for
the heroes, a friend’s birthday or a mother’s day. Come Sunday, we’ll be
celebrating St. Valentines Day, the day of you, the lovers.
Valentines
should be a day that crowns it all, a day that celebrates what you have done
for each other.
Celebrating
Valentine's Day can distract you from the issues in your relationship.
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If you
spend enough time with any one person, the two of you are will have issues.
While encountering challenges isn’t a bad thing, Valentine’s Day could provide
an unhealthy distraction from the things that the two of you need to work out.
The roses and reservations can create a “honeymoon effect,” pushing your
challenges to the backburner, only to resurrect themselves at a later date…with
a vengeance!
Celebrating
Valentine's Day could be a sign that your relationship is failing.
Unfortunately for some couples, this is the only day that they spend
together. If you find yourself and your significant other becoming two ships
that pass in the night, then Valentine’s Day—romantic day that it can be—could
be the telltale sign that your relationship is on the rocks. A strong
relationship will be a “Valentine’s Day EVERYDAY” coupling, with acts of love and
adoration occurring regularly, which include spending time together.
Celebrating
Valentine’s Day could reveal to you that the two of you need to re-kindle your
passion for each other and your relationship.
Are the roses and reservations the celebratory mainstay? Or, can he or she
expect to be surprised on February 14th? If your Valentine's Day is
predictable, which means you know exactly what you're going to do; when you're
going to do it; and what romantic little trinket you're going to get, then it
could me a sign that the romance and the spontaneity has waned.
Experience
of a couple
Over the
past few years, I have been a little more irritated with many of the holidays
we celebrate in America. I feel they have been taken over by the retailers.
Christmas has been completely overwhelmed with an intense focus on shopping and
spending money. Valentine’s Day is no different. It has become the holiday all
about flowers, chocolates, cards, and food.
I like to
be spontaneous when it comes to showing my wife that I love her. There isn’t
much fun going on when she expects to get some card or dinner on a specified
day.
The short
answer is that I don’t need an official holiday to tell me when I should show
affection to my wife.
Written by: Lady Verdezoto
Source
- Bell, G. (2014) Why my wife and I don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day. [Retrieved from: http://www.frugalrules.com/dont-celebrate-valentines-day/]
- McKenzie, S. (2012) 5 Reasons you should celebrate Valentine’s Day… Or Not! [Retrieved from: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/stephanie-d-mckenzie/five-reasons-you-should-celebrate-valentines-dayor-not]
- Mugisha, I. (2010) Society debate; Is valentine’s day worth the celebrations [Retrieved from: http://www.newtimes.co.rw/section/article/2010-02-11/93796/]
- Metal injection (2013) [Retrieved from: http://www.metalinjection.net/latest-news/the-ultimate-anti-valentines-day-playlist]
Valentine’s day
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One legend
contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in
Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men
made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage
for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied
Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When
Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death. According
to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first “valentine”
greeting himself after he fell in love with a young girl. Before his death, it
is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed “From your Valentine,” an
expression that is still in use today.
martes, 28 de junio de 2016
Missing School
States have different definitions of what it means to be
truant. Typically, a student is not considered truant until he or she misses a
specified number of school days without a valid excuse. For example, a state
may define truancy as missing three full days of school in a single month, or
10 full days of school in a single year. States may also consider a child
truant if the child is late without an excuse. For example, a child who is more
than 30 minutes late for any class three or more times in a single month may be
deemed truant.
Examples of excused absences include:
- Sickness
- Medical or Mental Health Appointments
- Religious Holidays
- Extreme Family Emergency
Examples of unexcused absences include:
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